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Why I’m Glad I Asked for Money (Not Gifts) from My Wedding Guests
After 6 years together, my boyfriend (now husband) and I got married on a beautiful day this past May. It was a rather traditional affair, being a Catholic ceremony and all, but the one custom we did not include was accepting wedding gifts from our guests. To challenge tradition even further, in lieu of gifts we asked for cash, gift cards, or cards only. I know, many of you may think this is taboo or just downright rude to do, but to us it was the only thing that made sense.
Our first reason for doing this was that we had lived together for a little over a year and thus had already set up a home for ourselves. We had everything we could possibly need (and fit) into our tiny apartment, so getting more stuff would have just been an inconvenience if anything. Our second reason for doing this was that we had made plans to move across the country almost immediately after the wedding. We planned on taking only as much stuff as we could fit into my husband’s hatchback Hyundai, meaning there would be little room for anything besides our computers and clothes.
That being said, getting around to telling all of our wedding guests that we weren’t going to be accepting gifts was a tad awkward. People generally love to pick out gifts for the wedding couple (hell, I love doing it when I’m a guest!), so telling everyone that all we wanted was money or a nice card wasn’t exactly easy. Thankfully, in the end we didn’t get any complaints, and we made sure to tell every one of our guests how we intended on using their monetary contribution. Without the money and gift cards we received from our guests we probably couldn’t have afforded our honeymoon to California, our road trip from Vancouver to Toronto, and any new appliances and furniture for our new home.
So if any of you out there are considering whether to accept gifts for your wedding or not, I say first weigh the pros and cons, then do whatever you think is right for you and your future spouse, not what others expect of you.
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