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Swinging is definitely a unique lifestyle choice and often one you don’t hear about very often. You may not even know that folks in your life are swingers in the first place! But if you do, and want to get them something special, here’s some great gift ideas for all the swingers in your life.
Some of these gifts are great for swingers who are open with their lifestyle and others are great for your more secretive swinging family and friends. Before we get going, I want to point out that you’re going to see a lot of pineapples on this list. Check out this post I wrote on the history for pineapples if you want to learn how they became a symbol for swingers.
Fun Gift Ideas for the Swingers and Non-Monogamous Couples
By the way, swingers come in all different varieties and all couples have their own set of rules when it comes to choosing partners. I tried to be general with these ideas, but some may not be appropriate for every situation.
The Ethical Slut Book
This is one of my top recommendations to anyone who is new to navigating non-monogamous relationships. Although it’s written more around poly and open relationships, it’s filled with great advice anyone practicing ethical non-monogamy, including swinging, can use.
I.Y.K.Y.K. Upside Down Pineapple Tumbler
Great for parties or taking on vacation, this insulated travel tumbler can be filled with their favorite drink (including adult beverages). The upside down pineapple, obviously, indicates they’re a swinger. If you know you know!
Upside Down Pineapple Hawaiian Shirt
If they’re more of the “wear my swinger pride” type this Hawaiian shirt is amazing. Subtle but still easy to spot, it would be perfect vacation shirt for mascs, or as a great swimsuit cover up for the beach for the fems!
Intimacy Conversation Starter Cards
Even the most experienced swingers are going to struggle breaking the ice with a new couple sometimes. Although these are designed for a pair, they’d be a great way to intimately get to know a new couple too.
Upside Down Pineapple Jewellery
This fun an inexpensive set is a cute way to accessorize while still hat tipping to their swinging lifestyle. Love that they’re subtle enough to wear out, too.
Swingers’ Lifestyle Q&A Book
This is a great gift idea for someone who’s interested in exploring swinging or a more open relationship but still have a bunch of questions. This book has both info for new or wanna be swingers and advice for folks navigating these types of relationships.
Intimate Massage Oil
You can never have too many different massage oils on hand if you’re a sex positive person! Great for creating intimacy and relaxing whether they use it with their main partner or someone new.
Pineapple Luggage Tags
Although it’s usually the upside down pineapple that’s recognized as a swinger’s symbol pineapples can also get the job done too. These would be great for a couple who travels, especially if they’re heading on a vacation to a swinger’s resort or cruise!
Married With Benefits Shirt
This shirt makes things pretty clear when it comes to your relationship status. What I love about this option is it isn’t just a t-shirt to announce that they’re open to swinging, but the rainbow also shows that they’re openly LGBTQ+ too.
Pineapple Links Hookup Cards
Sometimes it can be tough to keep track of new couples you meet, especially when you’re drinking or partying at the same time. It’s also nerve wracking to approach someone at these events, especially if you’re not sure if they’ll be into you. These cards solve both problems by taking the awkward conversation out of reaching out to prospective partners.
The Big Black Book of Sex Positions
There’s no such thing as knowing too much about sex, especially if you’re someone is a sex positive relationship. This book is a great guide to help expand their penetrative sex position repertoire and wow any partner they’re intimate with.
Cute Pineapple Pjs
Pineapples are a common theme on pjs because of the tropic vibe but this onesie is absolutely adorable. It’s a great way to say “I see you, but also want you to be cozy” to friend or loved one.
Upside Down Pineapple Hat
Another one of those somewhat unsubtle gift ideas for swingers, hats are great because they’re so versatile.
Unisex, available in a bunch of colors, easy to match with different outfits, and wearable out or on vacation, this is a great way for them to hat tip (get it?) to other swingers that they’re down.
Loaded Questions Adult Party Game
Although this one isn’t about sex exactly it is a great adult game for groups that hang out together who are sex positive and liberal. Maybe that’s your gang or maybe it’s someone else, but either way this game is a great way to push the limits of your friendships even if you don’t intend to sleep together.
She Comes First book for Men
If you ask me, this should be required reading for all cis men who are having sex with cis women and vagina owners. Fun to read and packed full of practical advice, it will take their oral sex game to the next level and leave their partners satisfied in a whole new way.
Sexy Lingerie
Lingerie is a great gift for everyone including girls, guys, gays, and theys. You can get anything from nice quality underwear that will make them feel sexy to something really spicy for the bedroom.
Personal Care and Grooming Gifts
Sex is fun but if they’re the kind of person who needs a lot of work to prepare for it (like with shaving or other personal grooming) then gifts to make that part easier are going a definite win. Just make sure you know them well before buying something like this!
We-Vibe Couples Vibrator
There are so many different ways this wireless, app controlled vibrator can enhance bedroom fun for swingers. They could have their spouse controlling it while with another intimate partner or vice versa, use it to build excitement before getting together with another person or couple, or anything else their adventure loving minds can come up with.
Polaroid Camera
When I think about swingers my mind always goes to 70s key parties for some reason. Anyway, something else they did in the 70s swinger lifestyle was take pictures, polaroid instant ones to be exact (since they didn’t need to be developed professionally).
Recreate that fun, sexy, and intimate vibe with your own retro Polaroid camera for a unique gift idea the swingers in your life didn’t even know they wanted.
Metal Personalized Sign
You can customize this sign to say any message, perfect for swingers to add to their cabin, vacation home, porch, or even to hang on their cruise ship or hotel room door.
Some of these gift ideas for swingers are better for folks who are open or take a lot of swingers vacations (like the upside pineapple stuff). Others are better for those who are more private (like the books and intimate items.) Either way, these are all great ways to show your swinger friends some love for any occasion!
